Sometimes God puts you in uncomfortable places to push you to move or make changes. As I grow older, my uncomfortability is non-negotiable. So maybe you need that push to do what’s best for you too.

This blog may rub some people the wrong way and for that I apologize, however, hopefully by the end of listening to the podcast and reading the blog, you’ll get a better understanding of why looking out for my well being is non-negotiable.

Dana Chanel

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As a woman, as an entrepreneur; I am constantly learning that I have to be assertive, speak my mind and be solid. This is in regards to business and personal relationships. Some people think just because you’re not getting cursed out, or my neck isn’t rolling, that I’m okay with certain situations. When in actuality, I am trying to keep my peace, my sanity and not come off as the angry black woman. My poetry and my art are my self expression and therapy for me. Oddly enough, doing this podcast and writing this blog gives me the opportunity to vent and sometimes just hear myself out loud. So when my clients receive emails and contracts from me, I have put my all into making sure that neither one of us are stressed, and that neither of us is uncomfortable. I love my clients, we get to know each other really well and sometimes that can be too a fault. However, please understand that NiSi’s Eyes is still a business and will be structured accordingly. So as I continue to gain knowledge, experience life, receive lessons, achieve victories, and sometimes be uncomfortable; things have to shift.

My uncomfortability is non-negotiable!

I may lose some clients, my circle of friends may get smaller but it is just about as big as a mustard seed already, but I have to make sure I’m good in all situations that I allow myself to be in. I’ve tolerated things for too long and I am the one that feels some kind of way at the end of the day, and in most cases it’s because there was miscommunication or something was lost in translation.

James Fortune

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God knows what I can handle, and I have been put in some positions that could’ve broken some people. There were times that I felt that I’d break as well. I’ve been in positions where I didn’t know how rent was going to be paid, in positions where I was taken advantage of, someone breaking in my car within minutes of me coming back to my car with my child. God has put me in some uncomfortable positions because he knows I probably won’t move due to being content. So in being content, I don’t feel like I am using my gifts or growing as I should and being a vessel for others. So, that tells me it’s time to move. So in relationships, business and personal, I have to state what I require! If by me having requirements doesn’t work with you or your finances, I may not be the right person for you. Thank you for thinking of me… maybe next time or next lifetime.

Taronza Graves

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There have been times where I haven’t spoken up because I was worried about how someone would feel or how they would take the information. However, that puts me in a position where I am the one stressed out and the other person/people may not have any idea that they are stressing me out and making me uncomfortable. Lately, I have been speaking out more on life lessons. Coming up as the baby of the family and a preacher’s kid, I haven’t spoken out about my life experiences because I knew my parents would hear it and it may affect them in a certain way. There’s a lot of poetry that I haven’t put out publicly because it’s my truth and in some cases, it’s erotic poetry so I keep those things out of the public eye as much. I am 40 years old and a lot of times still feel like I’m still a little girl. It is an uncomfortable fight that I have with myself on a regular.

As I am growing personally as a woman and in relationships, it allows me to grow in business as well.

Here’s what’s changing for me to be comfortable in my business and personal life:

-Yonitry Part 2 & 3 will be out by the end of the year and more of my life will be revealed

-I will walk more, drink more water and figure out my migraine triggers

-Out of town/overnight bookings (which means you have signed a contract and put a deposit in) will now include the fees to cover my hotel room for the duration of travel

-Relationships/ Situationships require 2 people, I will not be the one doing the most reaching and that same energy not be returned

-All Bridal/Pageant appointments will require a 30 min or less video chat to make sure we’re on the same page and review contract

-I will push myself to be involved in more opportunities to share my art (poetry and visual)

-I am releasing a poetry/vocal album by the end of the year along with my first book

-I will continue to be available to communicate and help my clients the best way I can so that they continually feel comfortably flawless.

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